Pulling Out Thorns

We hear countless millions of words in a lifetime. Some merely to inform or entertain, some to encourage and inspire, still others result in eruptions of laughter. As you well know, there are also words we hear that discourage, disappoint, wound, or damage.

A myriad of words mingled through the years. Most long forgotten, while others distinctly remembered.

Then there is the Word. Words that are divinely inspired, God-breathed – His very breath.

If you’ve been sitting in a church pew since you were on your Mama’s lap – and even if you hadn’t – you’ve probably heard immeasurable words from the Word.

But what was the result of these words? Have they been remembered, or are they long forgotten? Have they inspired life-change, or did they fall among thorns? 

And others are the ones on whom seed was sown among the thorns; these are the ones who have heard the word, but the worries of the world, and the deceitfulness of riches, and the desires for other things enter in and choke the word, and it becomes unfruitful.   ~ Mark 4:18-19  (NASB)

 

Worries of the World

I sit beside my man on a Sunday morning, and the life-giving words of the Word fall on eager ears and I vow to remember. But then I walk out through the church doors and in through my own, and three pairs of eyes look to me for lunch, the breakfast dishes still litter the counter, and tomorrow is a new week and I’m not ready to begin it all over again.

And as the week goes on, all the tomorrows loom large and the worries steadily creep in.

Appointments and homework and exercise and making lunches and scrubbing toothpaste off the sink and three square meals a day and bedtime stories and keeping a budget and falling wearily into bed while whispering an exhausted prayer- and how will I get it all done?

Oh yes – what was that I heard on Sunday?

For this reason I say to you, do not be worried about your life, as to what you will eat or what you will drink; nor for your body, as to what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? … So do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will care for itself.   ~ Matthew 6:25, 34 (NASB)

 

The Word is choked out and becomes unfruitful.

The Deceitfulness of Riches

Again on Sunday I sit attentive and eagerly drink in the water of the Word and again I vow to remember. But when I walk through the door and the comforts of this home with this life in all it’s abundant riches settle on me, I quickly forget.

Bubble baths and warm, buttery popcorn and a good book. The deceitfulness of riches erase the reality of the poor and the orphans and the sick and lulls me into apathy.

Oh yes – what was that I heard on Sunday?

But those who want to get rich fall into temptation and a snare and many foolish and harmful desires which plunge men into ruin and destruction.              ~ 1 Timothy 6:9 (NASB)

 

The Word is choked out and becomes unfruitful.

The Desire for Other Things

Another Sunday and I’m listening - now frantically writing the words across the lines and again I vow to remember. But Sunday afternoon finds me wandering around this home with a critical eye. If we only had … If only we could …

The world whispers discontent and the cravings for what I do not have grow stronger. Things become my pursuit, and if I only had this I’d be happy.

Oh yes – what was that I heard on Sunday?

But godliness actually is a means of great gain when accompanied by contentment. For we have brought nothing into the world, so we cannot take anything out either. If we have food and covering, with these we shall be content.   ~ 1 Timothy 6:6-8 (NASB)

 

The Word is choked out and becomes unfruitful.

How not to let the worries of this life, the apathy of riches, and the desire for other things choke out the power of the Word?

5 Ways to Allow the Word to Bear Fruit in Your Life

Write it Down
See the truths in your own hand. When you hear the Word taught, write down what you hear. Not only will you have it to go back to later, but writing the words helps reinforce the truths in your mind and increases retention.

Memorize it
When the Word leaps off the page, write it down on an index card and carry it with you. Pull it out when you are waiting in line, working in the kitchen, or walking through the aisles of the grocery store. Say it aloud when you are able. Move the words from your mind to your heart by committing them to memory.

Set a Time
Develop a habit by setting a time daily to read the Word. Perhaps in the morning before the rest of your house awakens?Perhaps in the evening after little ones are tucked snugly into bed? Perhaps during nap time a few moments can be set aside in quiet? Whatever the time, carve it out of your schedule and diligently guard it as your time alone with the Lord.

Put it into Practice
Don’t merely be a hearer of the Word and quickly forget. Be a doer of the Word, allowing the Holy Spirit to transform you into the image of Christ as you put into practice the truths found in Scripture. As you live out the Word, you are changed from glory to glory.

Develop a Habit
Cultivate a habit. Over days, weeks, months, and years develop a practice of feasting on the Word. Write it down often, memorize it faithfully, commit to your designated time, and ask the Lord to help you integrate it into your life. Over time a habit is born and a life is transformed.

 


Multitude Monday

2034. A book finished and a new study started.

2035. Two little girls dressing up as princesses and going to the ball.

2036. Hockey on the deck.

2037. Praying over her fears in the middle of the night and her questions about God.

2038. Reading library books together.

2039. When he hung up his sister’s coat without being asked.

2040. My mitten tree.

2041. Finding her after minutes that seemed like hours of frantic searching.

2042. Silly knock-knock jokes on the way home from school.

2043. Hot chocolate on a rainy day.

2044. When they volunteered to do something I didn’t know how I was going to get done.

2045. Soaking wet snowpants from jumping in puddles and the joy written all over her face.

2046. Movie night.

2047. A card to encourage.

2048. Sore muscles.

2049. Wrapping my arms around blankies and teddies and her in her footed cupcake jammies.

2050. Home-made potato soup.

2051. A low-lying full moon on the drive home.

2052. Skating together.

 


Grace-Based Parenting

A book lies on my nightstand, its pages dog-eared and its words highlighted.
 
 
 
 
In Grace-based Parenting, Dr. Tim Kimmel compares legalistic families with grace-based ones, in other words, parenting using legalism versus parenting from a position of grace.
 
I’ll allow him to explain:
 
“Legalistic families are a night-and-day contrast to grace-based families. Legalistic parents maintain a relationship with God through obedience to a standard. The goal of all this when it comes to their children is to keep sin from getting into their home. They do their best to create an environment that controls as many as the avenues as possible that sin could use to work its way into the inner sanctum. They teach the standards and rules that God outlines in the Scriptures and do everything within their power to keep their children from choosing sin … These families are preoccupied with keeping sin out by putting a fence between them and the world. 

The difference with grace-based families is that they don’t bother spending much time putting fences up because they know full well that sin is already present and accounted for inside their family. To these types of parents, sin is not an action or an object that penetrates their defenses; it is a preexisting condition that permeates their being. The graceless home requires kids to be good and gets angry and punishes them when they are bad. The grace-based home assumes kids will struggle with sin and helps them learn how to tap into God’s power to help them get stronger.”   ~ Dr. Tim Kimmel; Grace-Based Parenting

 
 
I want to be a grace-based parent.
 
I want this home to be based on love and grace instead of a list of rules of do’s and don’ts. I don’t want to be shocked when sin rears it’s ugly head inside these walls, but choose to extend forgiveness and grace in the same manner as I’ve received it from God countless times. I want to teach these children how to respond quickly to the destructive tendencies of their own flesh with repentance and show them grace is found only at the foot of the cross. 
 
You see, when any home is characterized by legalism, there is a high risk of the children’s faith crumbling when they find their mother, father, or even themselves, have committed an act on the list of don’ts. When a belief system is built on a foundation of do’s and don’ts, there is little room for grace.  When faith in our own ability to refrain from this and avoid that, while diligently participating in this, and routinely following that – when that faith falters – the entire belief system is shattered.
 
But when a family’s foundation is grace and all parenting efforts point young hearts to faith, hope, forgiveness, and significance in Christ alone, children are equipped to deal with their own sin and are taught to overcome destructive habits by the power of God.
 
There was a time in my young life when my perception of the rules was the basis of my faith in Christ, which impaired my ability to understand grace and freedom in the One who had come to show me the way to abundant life, despite my weaknesses and failings.
 
Now I understand grace far more, but sadly my automatic default quickly leads me back to that place where a list of rules defines me. I don’t want that for my children.
 
Father, teach me grace.
 
How do you keep grace central in your home and your parenting?

The Heart of the Matter

We have the same pep talk with our children every time we head out the door for Great-Grandma’s house:

Be polite. Remember to say thank-you. Don’t be loud. No running in the house. Eat all of your dinner without complaining about anything green on your plate. And please, no arguing with each other.

“To be completely honest,” I tell my husband on one occasion as we are walking to the van, “I don’t care if they yell and scream all the way home, as long as they are perfectly quiet and well-mannered while we are there.”

The minute the words are out, I know something is dreadfully wrong with this statement. Dreadfully wrong with this way of thinking.

You see, I’m so tempted to evaluate my success as a mother, and the success of my children, by what others think of them. I want them to be the cutest, the smartest, the kindest children in the neighborhood. I want them to be recognized for their skills and abilities and to be polite and sweet and smart. I would venture to say we all do. Manners and following the rules and being kind to their friends are all things we value as parents, but is outward behaviour and blind obedience enough?

No.

I know my mission as a mother is to reach the heart of my child.

To create a desire in them to walk with God each day, learning and growing and deepening in their relationship with Him.

To encourage a habit of serving others in tangible ways motivated by a deep love for those God has placed in their paths.

To inspire them to worship and praise and give thanks in the midst of the ordinary because they recognize God in the mundane moments of life. 

To motivate them to want to do right to please God – alone.

To empower them to live up to the God-sized dreams for them.

Reaching the hearts of my children is my goal … BUT HOW?

I ask this question and the words hang in the silence of six mothers gathered around a table. No one has an easy 3-step process.

One confesses it’s a daily thing.

A continual, intentional effort to go beyond the outward behaviour to the internal condition of the heart.

A letting go of the illusion of perfection and a willingness to ask tough questions to get beneath the surface.

A humble, patient, and gentle spirit to guide and model and influence in ways that address what is going on on the inside of the child that is driving the outward behaviour.

A transparency that confesses and asks forgiveness when heart issues arise in her own life and a quickness to seize teachable moments.

My children will quickly learn behaviour that is acceptable at Great-Grandma’s house, and they may even comply, but how will this affect their hearts?

God is in the business of transformation not conformity to a set of expectations we or others impose on our children. He desires to transform their hearts, and my role is to work together with His Spirit to allow Him to accomplish this in those He’s given me.

Behaviour is easy to measure. Easy to modify. Easy to manipulate.

Heart issues are much more difficult to identify and certainly more difficult to change.

But God is interested in the heart. And if I’m to be a woman after His own heart, I need to be focused on the same.

Incidentally, they almost always run through her home squealing loudly and coming dangerously close to causing delicate knickknacks to fall off shelves. A dispute often erupts between them over the few toys she has, causing the older to scream and the younger to cry.  And Great-Grandma almost always serves broccoli – need I say more?

How do you keep the heart issues at the forefront in your parenting? How do you reach the hearts of your children?


A Picture a Day to Count the Gifts

We’ve done it before – my friends and I – and this year we are embarking on the challenge again: To take a picture a day for an entire year.

365 photos of everyday life – Project Life.

The photos filling my album from two years ago feature ordinary moments at home, adventures at the farm, fun vacation moments, and snapshots of people and moments I want to remember always.

And … as you already know, I’ve been counting the gifts for well over a year now and my goal for 2012 is to count 1000 more,  reaching 3000 gifts by December 31st.

Two projects for 2012: A picture a day and counting 1000 gifts.

 

But really aren’t they the same thing?

The ordinary photos taken admist the routine of life – pictures of toothless smiles and family games and walks in the snow – aren’t the the same things we count as gifts? Those moments captured in pixels are evidence of the blessings straight from the Father.

Will you join me?

Are you a list-maker? Then grab a notebook and begin listing the gifts in your life one by one.

Are you a visual person? Then grab your camera and begin capturing the gifts in vivid colour.

However you decide to do it, don’t let those seemingly ordinary moments pass by unnoticed.

The earth is full of His glory!


Multitude Monday

Joining with others in the Joy Dare to count 1000 gifts in 2012. Will you do the same?

2010. The way the sunlight turns her hair to gold as she sings me a song to make me feel better.

2011. When she grabs my hand and prays for me.

2012. Snowy roofs against blue skies.

2013. An hour of quiet time, all reading in our rooms.

2014. Rosy cheeks.

2015. Rays of light through frost on windows.

2016. Back to routine.

2017. A goal of a picture a day.

2018. Their smiles in the snow.

2019. All day chatting side by side.

202o. Working together to come up with a solution.

2021. Lego creations all over the house.

2022. When she makes me laugh when she asked me what day she was born on and after I responded (Monday, September 17th) she said incredulously, “I was born on my birthday?!”

2023. A game for all four of us and much laughter.

2024. Their excitement over stay-at-home-with-Daddy-day.

2025. Letters and pictures sent in the mail to four children all over the world.

2026. Her words back: “I’m very happy that Jesus gave you to me.”

2027. Their silliness at bedtime.

2028. A quiet house while Daddy takes them swimming.

2029. When she “Shouts His Name” from the bathtub.

2030. When he sings the praise songs at church.

2031. Little notes.

2032. The four of them running through the snow at the farm.

2033. Antibiotics.

 


What are you carrying down the narrow road of life?

We had the T.V. on in the background as we sat around the table with a deck of cards. Each time my turn passed my eyes went back to the screen.

Riveted.

It was a reality show about the World’s Deadliest Roads. Winding through the Himalayan Mountains, this particular road featured very narrow sections with low rock ledges overhanging on one side and a drop of thousands of feet on the other. The cameras frequently showed images of vehicles that had fallen over the cliff to their demise.

In this episode the camera crew was following a truck carrying precious cargo down this deadly road. Cargo wrapped in sand and straw. Cargo with which every effort was made to ensure it wouldn’t be damaged in transit.

At any moment the truck’s tires could have crossed over the unbarricaded edge and the two people inside would have plummeted to their deaths along with the precious cargo.

What was so valuable that made this endeavor worth risking their lives?

Tucked securely in the bed of the truck was a statue of a Hindu goddess.

With black skin and painted eyes and a hideous red tongue sticking out of her mouth, this idol made of stone was being transported to a group of people deep in the mountains who were anxiously awaiting her arrival.

Their saviour. Their object of worship.

I stared in disbelief.

I know it to be true, particularly in other parts of the world, but to actually see people convinced an object was a god?! Seems ridiculous in our advanced culture. They were people who were willing to risk lives for an image made of stone. Unbelievable. How could a painted lump of stone be worth potential loss of life?

The truck continued to wind through the mountains stopping frequently to ensure the statue was intact.

But are we much different?

Sure, our idols aren’t made of wood or stone, hideously painted to resemble some sort of imaginary goddess. But what about those things we hold onto so tightly at the cost of the things most important in life?

The pursuit of money at the expense of time with our children.

The desire for more at the expense of contentment.

The need to be right at the expense of relationships.

The longing for peace at the expense of overlooking deep-rooted sin.

The need for order and structure and plans at the expense of walking in the Spirit.

The dependence on normalcy and routine at the expense of taking risks for God into His grand plan for our lives.

The addiction to pleasing others at the expense of pleasing God.

The compulsion to be loved at the expense of living in purity before God.

The obsession to remember at the expense of forgiveness and freedom.

There is a cost and a risk of devestating loss for refusing to let go idols in our own lives – refusing to carry them down the road of life. The road we travel is narrow indeed. Scripture says few will find it. There is no room for idols on this road. Everything that makes it’s way into the place only God should have in our lives should be thrown aggressively over the edge.

Idols must be knocked off their perch – shattered – destroyed. The bottom of a couple thousand foot drop is thier perfect resting place.

I won’t keep you in suspense. The hideous statue of the Hindu goddess arrived in one piece and the people celebrated with a very elaborate ceremony in worship to their new diety. At first glance, the story had a happy ending.

But it was so very sad.  

How are you, perhaps unknowingly, celebrating and worshiping idols in your own life? How can you intentionally destroy those things that occupy the place of God in your heart?

 


A New Year Means New Beginnings

He whispers accusations in our ears.

“You’re not good enough.”

“You could have done better.”

“Look at her life – why can’t you be more like her?”

The words sink deep and when we choose to entertain them – to roll them over in our minds again and again - they make their way into the fibre of our being and become part of who we tell ourselves we are.  

We exchange truth for lies.

We should expect nothing less from the father of lies. He is the accuser of the brethren.

Then I heard a loud voice in heaven saying, “Now the salvation, and the power, and the kingdom of our God and the authority of His Christ have come, for the accuser of our brethren has been thrown down, he who accuses them before our God day and night.”  ~  Revelation 12:10 (NASB) 

 

Day and night the accuser whispers accusations against us … before the throne of God.  

But …

Christ has already taken that list of accusations out of the way and cancelled it with His blood by nailing it to the cross.

When you were dead in your transgressions and the uncircumcision of your flesh, He made you alive together with Him, having forgiven us all our transgressions, having cancelled out the certificate of debt consisting of decrees against us, which was hostile to us; and He has taken it out of the way, having nailed it to the cross.  ~ Colossians 2:13-14 (NASB)

 

Done.

Nailed to the cross.

Remembered no more.  

What if the accusations are true? We fail and fall and mess up and get tangled in our own flesh, and in those times the accusations he makes before the throne may be accurate.

But …

If we run to the throne of grace first, and confess it to Him before the enemy has a chance to establish his accusations, we are forgiven. The certificate of debt consisting of decrees against us is cancelled. 

What has the enemy accused you of – whether it be true or untrue? What have you allowed to become part of your belief system about yourself?

A new year means new beginnings.

Choose to start this year believing Christ has cancelled every accusation against you. It was finished at the cross.

Forgiven.

Cancelled.

Done.


Will You Help Others Be Rich in Scripture?

I counted eight of them in our house.

Eight copies of the Word of God for four people! We are rich in Scripture indeed.  

It’s hard to believe there are people groups around the world who don’t have a single verse of Scripture in their own language.

Meet the Vidunda people.

The Vidunda people’s ancestral land lies in the foothills between two mountains of Tanzania. On the north, Mikumi National Park borders their homeland. In the past, sugar planters gradually usurped the plains, forcing the Vidunda people into the mountains. During WWII, enemy soldiers massacred large numbers of Vidunda speakers who were hiding in a cave. In recent years, government officials have forbidden farming on top of the mountain. This history of exploitation and abuse has made the Vidunda people very wary of outsiders. In this language group, more than 60 percent affiliate with Christianity. However, most still fear witchcraft and engage in many kinds of animistic rituals along with their non-believing neighbors. Many Christians still hang amulets on their children to protect them from evil spirits and curses. Because they’ve been hearing Scripture in a language foreign to them, most Vidunda people have little idea what it actually teaches.The majority of Vidunda speakers still live in fear of spirits rather than experiencing the redemption and freedom they could know in Christ. Non-Christians can’t see much victory or joy in the lives of believers. The Scriptures in their mother tongue will offer believers tools for deliverance from the bondage of fear. It will also support personal spiritual growth and provide a solid foundation from which to reach out to others.

 

They do not have the Word of God in their own language.

I am not okay with that.

 

I am so thrilled to be part of a project with the OneVerse Bloggers to translate the New Testament into the native language of the Vidunda people. By 2014 the Seed Company through OneVerse plans to be able to print the New Testament in it’s entirety for the Vidunda.

But they need our help.

For only $26 a month you can help translate Scripture. The last verse that was funded was Matthew 24:29, so we are almost through the book of Matthew! We can do this!

Will you help others be rich in Scripture?

(Click here to donate)


What if this year were different?

When a new year dawns, I’m completely unprepared.

On the first day of 2012 I spend most of the day in bed with the same flu that has made its way through many households. My head pounds and my body aches and my heart feels the same.

I’m not ready for this new year.

So unlike me.

 

New year is usually my favourite time of year. I love the idea of a new beginnings, setting new goals, and mustering new determination to move forward, climb higher, and dig deeper. Most years I embrace a new calendar with renewed energy, vigour, and resolve to be and do better.

But the dawn of 2012 only finds me burying myself deeper under the blankets.

I have no goals set – haven’t even given them a thought. The things I had hoped to have accomplished over the Christmas holidays are left unchecked on my list. The organization projects around the house, the inspiring blog posts, and the Bible study I’d hoped to finish are all left undone.

When I finally make my way down the stairs mid-afternoon, the Lego and pencil crayons I have to step over only serve as more evidence of my disorganized state.

I wonder what a year that begins this way will bring? I wonder what 2012 holds for this house, these kids, this marriage, and for my walk with Him?

Only He knows the end from the beginning.

But then I wonder if she’s right. Does trying harder only bring harder trials?

I’ve certainly done my fair share of trying harder. And I’ve noticed one thing: the harder I try, the harder I fall. Try harder to keep my patience. Try harder to keep this house from falling apart. Try harder to love better and give more and serve from a purer heart.

Trying harder only resulted in falling harder and failing faster.

Apart from Him I can do nothing.  

It’s only through Him, bowing low in humility, surrendered in complete dependence, that we achieve greatness. Christ in us – that’s the secret.

Recent years of new beginnings have been characterized by strong resolve and redoubled effort for me, and haven’t I failed in more ways than I can count? March usually brings exhaustion and a resignation and a remembrance that I can’t do it all on my own.

What if a year that begins with resting would continue with resting in Him? What would happen if instead of trying harder we all decided to lean heavier into Him? What if instead of goals planned across the months in sheer determination, we followed His Spirit one step at a time in sheer faith?

How would the year then unfold?

Dare to find out with me?

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